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Miriam's avatar

We are very comfortable and have peace about being finished having biological children. We have not taken permanent steps, though we wish to ($$$), and every month I struggle with some measure of "what if..." fear/anxiousness. The last pregnancy took such a toll on me physically and emotionally that had a form of ptsd afterwards, with severe panic attacks anytime my husband wanted to be affectionate. It took months to heal that. But reading your story I am so, so encouraged to know that "if" God has more children for us from my body, it will be a miracle and HIS plan. And that I can rest in. Thank you. 😭

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Susanna Bythesea's avatar

Thank you for sharing this! I’m 41 and with five already, everyone around assumes I’m “done” and not only they, but our culture reminds me I should be, a thousand times. “It’s time for a new stage,” “it’s great to be done with the baby days!” “It’s so nice to be done with diapers!” But I want more. I feel so old when I look at the world, yet I’m still here…I’m still fertile (as far as I know). Why does the world tell us we’re done so early? (That’s rhetorical - I know the secular culture is so aligned against families and motherhood.)

Praying…that I get one more. But your story makes me think maybe I’m thinking too small. Maybe, maybe…two more…🥰🥰

Thank you for sharing 💕

Children are a gift from God.

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Leah's avatar

Thank you so much for this. I wrote about the question of being “done” last fall and was encouraged by the response from so many. I’m younger than you and truly value hearing your insight on this matter in a different stage of life.

https://blessedendurance.substack.com/p/so-are-you-done

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Anna @ Provocative Demureness's avatar

I meant I almost had bonus baby number 3... I have 6 altogether. I would have had 7, God's perfect number.

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Anna @ Provocative Demureness's avatar

What a beautiful story. I have two bonus babies, too, and they fill my days with extra laughter and joy that I would have missed. I almost had baby number 3. I had a terrible attitude about and eventually had a miscarriage. I miss that baby.

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Lisa Trahan's avatar

Oh how we get caught up in " the small picture", the myopic view! To our detriment.

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