I'm a 50/50 holiday mom, sometimes I go all out, sometimes I forget it exists. It all depends on where I'm at pregnancy/postpartum. My oldest is 4 and I'm pregnant with our 4th so consistency isnt my strong suit in this season. I try to not let the guilt seep in, but it is a sneaky creature. Thank you for the reminder.
I always felt guilty for not celebrating all the "special" days with my kids. I really never knew it was a thing to do with my kids until they were grade school age and others were doing. My guilt came from not really trying because it wasn't my thing. They are all adults now and it didn't seem to harm them. Thanks for making me feel like this is normal for me and was not harmful to my kids. Your writing really speak to me. Thanks for letting the Lord use your gift to help others!
It doesn't harm them at all! It's honestly a newfangled idea that was elevated when schools latched on to the idea to break up the monotony of their 8 hour classroom days and find themes to capitalize on. NOT NEEDED in home life! A fun extra if it blesses you, but if it doesn't... no worries.
Do you know the song In Christ Alone? Every time I start to feel guilty about something like this-- something I know is small, but I feel it nonetheless-- I remind myself of these lines--
Bless you for speaking up for us not-holiday moms! I’m in the trenches of the multiple toddlers phase (4 kids under 5) and I often have no idea a minor holiday is coming until the day before, lol.
That was the season where my guilt was so strong! So much fun out there… and none of the time or energy to make it happen for my kids. Turns out… it was o.k.!
I have never been a “holiday” girl outside of Christmas and Easter really. But God gifted me with a daughter who had a heart to make “anything” an occasion 🥹 it was an adjustment for me for sure 😂 over time I learned to let go and let her decorate or plan an “event” with materials we kept stocked (like streamers and party goods mostly leftover from birthdays) and over more time, she basically took over and even planned her own birthday parties, letting me help occasionally 😂. Pushing the guilt aside is necessary for sure, you have clearly illustrated what is MOST important 😊
I had to learn, also, to let my holiday/event girly have some freedom to celebrate (letting go of my own Pinterest “eyes”) in her own way.
Thank you for this! I'm realizing I'm not the holiday mom, and for a minute I was really being critical of myself.....but I show every day to my children and show them love.
I'm a 50/50 holiday mom, sometimes I go all out, sometimes I forget it exists. It all depends on where I'm at pregnancy/postpartum. My oldest is 4 and I'm pregnant with our 4th so consistency isnt my strong suit in this season. I try to not let the guilt seep in, but it is a sneaky creature. Thank you for the reminder.
NO guilt! Live your life in freedom!
I always felt guilty for not celebrating all the "special" days with my kids. I really never knew it was a thing to do with my kids until they were grade school age and others were doing. My guilt came from not really trying because it wasn't my thing. They are all adults now and it didn't seem to harm them. Thanks for making me feel like this is normal for me and was not harmful to my kids. Your writing really speak to me. Thanks for letting the Lord use your gift to help others!
It doesn't harm them at all! It's honestly a newfangled idea that was elevated when schools latched on to the idea to break up the monotony of their 8 hour classroom days and find themes to capitalize on. NOT NEEDED in home life! A fun extra if it blesses you, but if it doesn't... no worries.
I needed this! I'm always letting the guilt sneak in!
Do you know the song In Christ Alone? Every time I start to feel guilty about something like this-- something I know is small, but I feel it nonetheless-- I remind myself of these lines--
No guilt in life, no fear in death
This is the power of Christ in me
From life's first cry to final breath
Jesus commands my destiny
No power of hell, no scheme of man
Can ever pluck me from His hand
Till He returns or calls me home
Here in the power of Christ I'll stand
Bless you for speaking up for us not-holiday moms! I’m in the trenches of the multiple toddlers phase (4 kids under 5) and I often have no idea a minor holiday is coming until the day before, lol.
That was the season where my guilt was so strong! So much fun out there… and none of the time or energy to make it happen for my kids. Turns out… it was o.k.!
I have never been a “holiday” girl outside of Christmas and Easter really. But God gifted me with a daughter who had a heart to make “anything” an occasion 🥹 it was an adjustment for me for sure 😂 over time I learned to let go and let her decorate or plan an “event” with materials we kept stocked (like streamers and party goods mostly leftover from birthdays) and over more time, she basically took over and even planned her own birthday parties, letting me help occasionally 😂. Pushing the guilt aside is necessary for sure, you have clearly illustrated what is MOST important 😊
I had to learn, also, to let my holiday/event girly have some freedom to celebrate (letting go of my own Pinterest “eyes”) in her own way.
I have one of these kids, too. She's grown now and raising her own family, and it's a joy to see her fully throw herself into who God made her to be!
Awesome kids! They know that 5 de Mayo is NOT Mexican Independence Day.
Not even close. That's in September!
Such a balm to the soul
I am so glad!
Thank you for this! I'm realizing I'm not the holiday mom, and for a minute I was really being critical of myself.....but I show every day to my children and show them love.
It matters SO much more than the random days someone decided were important. It truly, truly does!
Nice to see you here!