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Emily G's avatar

Heather,

Your writing is a joy to read. I value the lessons you so beautifully and practically impart to your sisters in the faith. I treasure hearing about Mawmaw, and I find it so amazing how one woman’s faithfulness in the small and daily things of life is still bearing and multiplying fruit. God’s ways truly are so much higher than our own.

I found this piece to be particularly precious. I thank you for your faithfulness to the work the Lord has called you.

“That they may teach the young women..to love their husbands…” Titus 2:4

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Cheryl's avatar

My husband sounds so much like yours.

But I needed reminded of these things. It seems every spot I make to try and help him be tidy overflows quickly as well. Oh but the goodness that comes from that man is so inspiring.

Thank you for sharing. And for Mamaw sharing her words of wisdom.

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Heather @ To Sow a Seed's avatar

These men are so humbling. ❤️ I praise God every day for the gift He gave me in my husband.

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Leah's avatar

Wow, I love a straight shooter!! I am shocked by how many *Christian* women in my life seem to encourage the opposite of this as if they’re doing the Lords work. I can’t mention that I’m tired (raising 6 kids over here) without replies like, “doesn’t it bother you? Have you even told your husband? Would he listen to you? He should be helping more!” Where are the women who will hear that you’re tired, and say “well done! Work hard! Live to the hilt!”? I’m pretty sure the Lord was tired a lot. Anyway, thank you writing this. What a refreshment.

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Savannah Petit's avatar

This was beautiful to read and encouraging as a wife of only a few years and we've had a baby each year of our marriage. It is often the wisdom of the women ahead of me, like my own Mawmaw, my Nana, my Mama and many other wise women in my life that help me along the way, especially with the way small things can become big in our minds if we aren't careful. Socks on the floor are small things and my husband has his own small things, just as I do. Thank you again for writing this! I have just recently found your work and love reading your writing.

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Danielle DeRose's avatar

Well this was so needed. Thank you!

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Brooke Stemme's avatar

Thank you for this. Expectations, those I’ve placed on myself and those I think others hold of me, is something I’m still working through as newly married and still newly adulting, as well as how to let go and not wrestle with things I can’t control. But thankful for your words and the gentle encouragement by the Holy Spirit today as he continues to work in my heart to move me away from worry and anxiety over “all the mental loads I’m carrying” to how I can support and trust my husband in providing for us and continue to feel like our home is a safe place. Lots of love and appreciation this morning.

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Fiona's avatar

Thank you!

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Carolyn's avatar

Thank you for writing this. 😪

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jennifer randall's avatar

Oh this was beautiful! Thank you for sharing Mamaw’s wisdom. I needed that reminder today. That straightening of my thoughts that trailed off sideways. I love this perspective. I’ll remember it always and pass it on. 🙌🏻🙏🏼

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Heather @ To Sow a Seed's avatar

It's so easy for the world's perspective to creep into our thoughts!

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E.V. McCall's avatar

This is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever read ❤️

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Heather @ To Sow a Seed's avatar

It's beautiful to live out. <3

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Marina D's avatar

Hi Heather,

I really like this, because in our relationship I am the one who is messy (woman here). This relieves me of the burden to pick up after myself ;) But jokes aside, acceptance from my partner means the world for me and motivates me to clean up myself. The only thing I would be horrified of is stored up resentment in my partner.

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Heather @ To Sow a Seed's avatar

❤️❤️❤️

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Dwell in the Land's avatar

Thank you.

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Teresa Davis's avatar

Thank you for the reminder! I needed this today. Your writing is such a blessing to me!

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Katie Donohue Tona's avatar

I absolutely love this🥹 this post made me laugh and cry. thank you Heather for writing this and inspiring young wives like myself to joyfully serve our husbands.

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Katelyn Garrepy's avatar

I agree wholeheartedly with this post. I am currently battling cancer. I'm 26, and for most of our five year marriage I have been an invalid. When I hear wives complain of such things I just want to cry because I want to be a "normal" wife and homemaker so badly but my health prohibits it...I wish so much that my husband could leave his socks out or his dirty clothes on the floor and I could clean them up for him.

Your Mamaw sounds like a gem. 💕

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