I think this “series” are my favorite you have written. Your Mamaw reminds me a lot of my grandmother. She is 79 years old this year and just moved into a mobile home in our yard. I’m gleaning so much wisdom from her. Thank you for sharing!
Every time I write about Mamaw, I feel as if I've had just a few moments with her again. Much needed in this loud, chaotic world. Enjoy your grandmother for as long as the Lord allows you! <3
THANK YOU for including the Baby clause. It's taken me years and 4 babies to finally start caring for myself enough to take the rest I desperately need postpartum. My pelvis has thanked me this time around and I am in A LOT less pain than my previous 3 post partum periods. My 4th is now 14 months and she's FINALLY starting to sleep through the night here and there, and I'm starting to feel like maybe I can get back into a manageable homeschool and cleaning routine again. 🙌
I'm curious your thoughts on having the husband help during this motherhood (and homeschooling.. and having babies..) season. My husband doesn't contribute to cleaning (except the odd time that he barks at the kids to clean up) Shoukd i be asking for help? Or is it really just my job to do all the cooking and cleaning and all that?
I know this is a question is from awhile ago but yes, your husband should be helping as he is able. It will be different for every couple depending on whether he works more than 1 job, has an office job or does physical labor. I would say he should help with the basics mostly, -cooking, dishes, laundry. Be prudent in what you ask him to do. Remember, though, that bringing a new life into the world and nurturing that life when he/she is most vulnerable and your body is recovering is not doing nothing. It's highly demanding physically and while it is your job to do the cooking and cleaning, you will have to lay down some of those responsibilities during pregnancy and postpartum. When you have the "extra" of taking care of an infant plus recovering physically, his part will be doing the "extra" of household work that he normally wouldn't do. I mean, the consequences of sex will have to be accepted by both husband and wife. The wife carries the more immediate physical burden so the husband will suddenly have the burden of picking up some of the slack in addition to his regular work. It's called love and it's what you do for each other. You will do the same for him if he's ever physically not up to par such as illness or doing extra work than normal. You will step up and do more for him.
Traditionally, though it would be sisters, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, friends etc who would work together and pitch in for weeks after a baby is born. Other countries around the world still do this for new mothers but in America, new mothers are treated terribly. I think that the idea of bouncing back came from feminism to try to "prove" women are just as tough as men and their biology won't effect their work performance. Once again, feminism hurts rather than helps women. Since we don't really have this option in America, it's the father who will have to step up. He plays a role in the baby making process and taking care of mom and baby is a part of it.
I'm so sorry I missed this comment. I think that if your husband is truly loving you as stated in Ephesians 5, then the answer is clear: when you have a need, he should be eager to meet it. If he is somehow unable to assist with things that are outside of your ability at this time, then he should be making arrangements for others to step in to offer care, even if that means reaching out to women in your church or hiring someone to come in and help. The example we have in Ephesians is so strong, there's just no way around this one!
Your writing has really been feeding my soul lately as a new Mom who also quit her job when her first baby was 9 months old! He’s now 14 months and I’m still adjusting from the crazy-fast pace of life as a lawyer and also making time to pray and read Scripture throughout the day. This really helps me so much! Thank you!
I love this series! My mamaw helped raise me and it's like being with her again! the thing that stretches me the most is inviting people in impromptu and talking to them! I love to feed them but what to say. And doing the inviting is way outside my comfort zone but the Lord is giving me strength and gave me a very extroverted husband 🥰
I so look forward to these posts! Thank you!
I am so glad!
I think this “series” are my favorite you have written. Your Mamaw reminds me a lot of my grandmother. She is 79 years old this year and just moved into a mobile home in our yard. I’m gleaning so much wisdom from her. Thank you for sharing!
Every time I write about Mamaw, I feel as if I've had just a few moments with her again. Much needed in this loud, chaotic world. Enjoy your grandmother for as long as the Lord allows you! <3
THANK YOU for including the Baby clause. It's taken me years and 4 babies to finally start caring for myself enough to take the rest I desperately need postpartum. My pelvis has thanked me this time around and I am in A LOT less pain than my previous 3 post partum periods. My 4th is now 14 months and she's FINALLY starting to sleep through the night here and there, and I'm starting to feel like maybe I can get back into a manageable homeschool and cleaning routine again. 🙌
I'm curious your thoughts on having the husband help during this motherhood (and homeschooling.. and having babies..) season. My husband doesn't contribute to cleaning (except the odd time that he barks at the kids to clean up) Shoukd i be asking for help? Or is it really just my job to do all the cooking and cleaning and all that?
I know this is a question is from awhile ago but yes, your husband should be helping as he is able. It will be different for every couple depending on whether he works more than 1 job, has an office job or does physical labor. I would say he should help with the basics mostly, -cooking, dishes, laundry. Be prudent in what you ask him to do. Remember, though, that bringing a new life into the world and nurturing that life when he/she is most vulnerable and your body is recovering is not doing nothing. It's highly demanding physically and while it is your job to do the cooking and cleaning, you will have to lay down some of those responsibilities during pregnancy and postpartum. When you have the "extra" of taking care of an infant plus recovering physically, his part will be doing the "extra" of household work that he normally wouldn't do. I mean, the consequences of sex will have to be accepted by both husband and wife. The wife carries the more immediate physical burden so the husband will suddenly have the burden of picking up some of the slack in addition to his regular work. It's called love and it's what you do for each other. You will do the same for him if he's ever physically not up to par such as illness or doing extra work than normal. You will step up and do more for him.
Traditionally, though it would be sisters, mothers, grandmothers, aunts, friends etc who would work together and pitch in for weeks after a baby is born. Other countries around the world still do this for new mothers but in America, new mothers are treated terribly. I think that the idea of bouncing back came from feminism to try to "prove" women are just as tough as men and their biology won't effect their work performance. Once again, feminism hurts rather than helps women. Since we don't really have this option in America, it's the father who will have to step up. He plays a role in the baby making process and taking care of mom and baby is a part of it.
https://laleche.org.uk/life-with-a-new-baby-across-the-world/
I'm so sorry I missed this comment. I think that if your husband is truly loving you as stated in Ephesians 5, then the answer is clear: when you have a need, he should be eager to meet it. If he is somehow unable to assist with things that are outside of your ability at this time, then he should be making arrangements for others to step in to offer care, even if that means reaching out to women in your church or hiring someone to come in and help. The example we have in Ephesians is so strong, there's just no way around this one!
I subscribed literally for these posts about Mamaw - it makes my day to read about the wisdom she passed down. Thank you for sharing her with us!
I can’t tell you how tickled she would be to have new friends. She loved nothing more than being among others!
I. Love. This.
Your writing has really been feeding my soul lately as a new Mom who also quit her job when her first baby was 9 months old! He’s now 14 months and I’m still adjusting from the crazy-fast pace of life as a lawyer and also making time to pray and read Scripture throughout the day. This really helps me so much! Thank you!
I very much enjoyed this post! This is the kind of Mamaw I hope to be one day! ♥️
I love this series! My mamaw helped raise me and it's like being with her again! the thing that stretches me the most is inviting people in impromptu and talking to them! I love to feed them but what to say. And doing the inviting is way outside my comfort zone but the Lord is giving me strength and gave me a very extroverted husband 🥰